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Journey Back to Me

I know I'm blessed. I'm a mom, a spouse, and a professional who's lucky enough to have a wonderful network who surround me with love. But there many times when I get overwhelmed with the  feeling that I'm not living my life to the fullest.  I feel like I'm putting too much energy in to the thankless jobs.

When your relationship is fresh and your children are young you are mostly in a people-pleasing stage . You’re cooking fantastic dinners, getting the laundry done and putting it away. Essentially, you’re the administrator and CEO of the home.

Over the years, my friends watched me whisking around the house trying to keep it spotless and preparing massive dinners. On many occasions they said, “I don’t know how you do it”. For some reason, I translated that to mean, “girl, I wish I could do what you do” but what they actually meant was “That's crazy! I'm glad I don't have to do it".

One day, a close friend told me that I needed to be a little more selfish. I knew exactly what dhe meant. The word selfish suddenly took on a new meaning for me, it now meant self-preservation. While I was running around catering to the needs of everybody, I had forgotten how to enjoy my life.

"Me-time" was a whole new concept. What does one do with me-time? How am I supposed to know what I like and dislike? It took a significant amount of effort to remember my favorite color, my love for fashion, sewing, interior design, andreading. I was well aware of my favorite pass time of all, helping people.

Some ladies hold their heads up high when they're called a superwoman. But I think that's a big mistake. But being a champ can be tiring. Why the hell
 Would we want to set up that type of legacy for our daughters?

My babies and me❤

I'm going to be a new type of champ. The kind that gets things done but works to live, not live to work. I plan to work smart, not hard. I'm on a journey back to me. It's going to be a long road but it's overdue. Going forward, I'm going to get more rest and be focused on having a peaceful and full life. Like I said, it will take time but it's okay. As a good friend once told me, "you must crawl before you walk".



  1. Good luck with the blog. Well Done.

  2. great post. taking care of 'self' in all its entirety is essential to being well at all ages and at all points in life. I look forward to witnessing your journey.

    I anticipate your next post, Wendy.

    Peace & Blessings

  3. Great job girl, let the journey begin!!!!


  4. Well written Wendy! A topic many can relate to in today's busy society, we could all enjoy sometime for ourselves.


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