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Take it slow

Hold back, don't dive right in and proceed with caution.  You can't rush something you want to last forever. 

Mystery is attractive when you're getting to know someone. The key is to not reveal too much too soon. It's tempting to tell your new found interest everything about yourself, everything that you're thinking. I understand why you'd want to put all the cards on the table right up front, you're just trying to eliminate any surprises down the road. But letting them know too much up front is not wise.

When you meet someone new, you have to take your time. Take it slow. Only time reveals. People will only tell you what they want you to know. Even if you were to hire a private investigator, you'll never really know what's going on in their minds. 

A private investigator can let you know if someone has a criminal record but can they find out if your new found interest has been a serial cheater in the past?

It’s also tempting to throw all your eggs in to one basket. But it's not wise to put all your energy and into someone you just met. Again, there's no need to rush, "only fools rush in".

If your love interest likes you as much as you like them, they won't be going anywhere. If they're for real, there'll be lots of time to get to know each other and share some of your deepest secrets (only of absolutely necessary). You'll have way more fun getting to know someone before putting it all out there. 

It's okay for two people to take their time to get to know each other because true love takes time to grow. I think people fall in love with parts of you before they fall in love with all of you. A good healthy protective approach to relationships is the key, no?

You must not fall in love, you must stand in love!