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Finding Joy, With or Without a Partner

It's important to live life to the fullest.
If you waste half of your life searching for a partner, 
you're going to  spend the rest of your life wondering why 
you wasted the first half of your life just hoping to find them.

That little poem was just some unexpected wisdom that spewed out of my mouth one day when a friend of mine broke out in to tears. Although she had been going on dates for a while, she couldn't seem to find a partner.

I had to remind her that even if she found a partner, she would still be responsible for her joy and happiness. Her life would not miraculously become perfect. You have to create your own joy. The only responsibility that your partner has, with respect to your happiness, is not to take your joy away.

You know that saying, "the grass is always greener on the other side"? Most people in relationships, even those in "good" ones, sometimes wonder what it would be like to be single. They sometimes think about the freedom that comes along with not having a partner.

On the other side of the fence, those that are single wonder what it would be like to have a companion. They think about always having someone to do things with. But as you look over the fence, your vision is distorted.

Relationships aren't all they are built up to be and neither is being single. There are many broken hearts on both sides of the fence.

Humans are very complex creatures. Even if you're the most positive person, it's hard to feel satisfied all the time. One thing I know for sure is that happiness is my responsibility and not my partner's. Although I've heard it said many times, I finally get it and I am committed to finding my own happiness.

Find happiness in the place you are.

The Wendenator 


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