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May Have to Burn That Bridge

Do you have someone in your life that's been around for a long time and they constantly bring you grief? Do they make remarks to belittle you? Do they avoid you when things are going well for you? Do you have to self-talk yourself back to normal after spending time with them? Then it's time to let them go. 

Look, it's hard to intentionally burn a bridge, especially when it comes to people who've been in your life for many years. But if most of your interactions with them are leaving you feeling down, angry, small, or hurt, then what's the point? They're toxic and you don't need to have them around.

We get bogged down with relationships resulting from a sense of obligation. "Well she's my cousin", or "he's been my friend since high school", is what you find yourself saying when people question why you've continued the toxic relationship. Then you start to wonder why but it's usually after finally realizing that you have value and that your uniqueness is your gold. 

You'll question the existence of certain people in your life when you start giving your self the love it deserves. I can tell you to let the bad ones go but it is not my place to do that, it's yours. You'll say goodbye in your own time. You'll burn the bridges that you find necessary to burn. Then you'll only be surrounded by people who help you rise.

Love yourself,

Wendy (a.k.a. The Wendenator) 



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